Leaders Avoid Drama During Conflict

Why do people get melodramatic? Is it an inability to rein in one’s emotions? Is it about getting attention by yelling or acting out? Could it be a search for validation?

Drama in others is confusing – it seems immature, attention-seeking and unnecessary.

Drama in ourselves? We don’t usually know it’s happening until we’re in the moment.

Here’s what we usually tell ourselves:

“This dilemma is extremely important to me. I’m being treated unjustly. My opinions seem unimportant to you. I want to create a feeling that I am in control of this.”

What to do?

When you feel your voice get louder and faster, and see people back away or look confused, pause and ask yourself:

“Even if this feels good in the moment, what lasting impression am I leaving on other people?”

Thanks for reading,

Alan Feirer



This is the 6th post in a series discussing what not to do during conflict situations. Effective leaders avoid portraying these 18 behaviors during conflict. Follow along as we explore the negative impact of these behaviors, and what to do instead.
Post 1: Leaders Avoid Arguing During Conflict
Post 2: Leaders Avoid Belittling During Conflict
Post 3: Leaders Avoid Caving In During Conflict
Post 4: Leaders Avoid Being Defensive During Conflict
Post 5: Leaders Avoid Dismissing Others’ Opinions During Conflict

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