But – things go better when we work to adapt ourselves, rather than trying to force others to change. In fact, our adaptation can inspire others to change. (Have you read Leadership and Self-Deception yet?)
Consider this as a goal: Be easy to work with. More opportunities come along that way. Something we’ve seen is that the world seems to work better for people who are punctual, deliver on time, respond to communication quickly, are pleasant, and exceed expectations.
So — how to do that with your “Steadiness” leader, who cares about support, collaboration, and stability? Match their style and their needs.
Consider keeping these things in mind:
-Allow pauses in your professional conversations, and even more pauses when you present information.
-Ensure that any changes you suggest allow for proper time to mentally prepare.
-Read between the lines; the “S” leader may sometimes avoid direct confrontation or issuing ultimatums, allowing you to make tough decisions on your own, rather than forcing them on you unneccessarily.
-Stay patient, and allow them to think out loud about the process.
-Allow for some small talk for connecting on the human level.
While it is probably true that they need to work on being more direct or firm or having a sense of urgency, it isn’t your task today to change and develop them. But, you can give them room to do that work on their own when you stay easy to work with.